Marriage for first time for 55yr old man? Is it all its cracked up to be

Question

I have just come from a 4 year online relationship and that ended about 4-5 weeks ago. I am on the same dating website and have already found someone else. I love her dearly but have no job, very little money and don't see myself as a husband with responsibilities but just don't know as this would be my first time for marriage. Do I ask her now if she will marry me later in say winter 23' or spring 24'so she can start planning if she says yes.  I have no money. She has a well paid job and is respectable and that's what I like about her too. 

Answer 1

Yes. The sooner you get married the better. That's my advice.

Comments

lol ; - )

Sounds like a plan

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They should be paying for quality like that Lady but I'm not that kinda guy.

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: )

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Of course not! You don’t come across as “an easy man” or gigolo! lol

Answer 2

The truth is many would marry for love over money. However, in reality it's not practical. Unless, of course, she's in the position to accept and is willing to support you. My advice, as the proverb suggests; all good things come to those who wait! Aka  patience is a virtue. 

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Right. Money let's you do things and opens up possibilities.

Answer 3

You say you found her on the dating website.  Has it been an online relationship or have you been meeting in the "real" world?  If so, how many dates have you been on, and where did you go/what did you do on the dates?

Answer 4

I am curious as to what you heard that it is cracked up to be.  Lol.

I was going to say no. Don't do it.  But in your case you have nothing to lose.  You have no money, no job, and no real prospects.  Perhaps having someone telling you what to do full time, 24 hours a day, will help you.  You are too old to join the military, they also tell you what to do and think 24/7.  And too poor to get a dog for companionship.  No matter what they are thinking,dogs don't talk back.  

But in your case, if you can find anyone that will take you, maybe you should try to tie them down as soon as possible.

Comments

Right. To bring up a family requires cash. In the real world unemployed means you won't be able to provide.

Answer 5

I’m not sure about what you’ve heard about marriage being all”it’s cracked up to be”?

Marriage at best is a challenge? Compatibility in communication styles, financial priorities and the ability to negotiate differences in priorities/preferences takes maturity, cooperation and and equal commitment in doing so.

40 - 50% of first time marriages end in divorce! Why? Often infidelity, substance abuse, verbal, physical abuse and financial debt. This abysmal number remains high even for people who previously lived together.

Men typically fair worse after a break up than women.

So, be realistic in your relationship goals, never base everything on an online relationship only or on vacations or a small sampling of the same type of venue. Remember this person is auditioning to be your life partner and they are on their best behavior during courtship!

Answer 6

Online are many romance scammers!! Please do not ask her to marry you unless you meet her in person.